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Essays by ...
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I
can never forget the magnificent pealing of the church bells as
they echoed through the neighborhood — Brooklyn was a borough of
churches and in Bedford-Stuyvesant, we had one on each corner of
our block and they were all tolling victory. I pressed my forehead
against the window pane, flattening the little flag hanging there,
the one with one gold and two blue stars. I watched as neighbors
leaned precariously from their windows, banging wooden spoons on
pots and ringing dinner bells, school bells or blowing on horns
and whistles.
It
was September 2, 1945, V-J Day, a day which should have been a
happy one but for my family, it was filled with a numbness, a
feeling that this day came too late for us. Only five months ago,
I had run home from school for lunch. I pressed the button in the
marbled vestibule and waited impatiently for the answering buzz.
It never came. A neighbor, on his way out, opened the door. He
avoided my thanks by ducking out quickly. A knot of neighbors were
congregated on the second landing — truly an unusual sight —
apartment dwellers nodded and smiled, but rarely spoke to each
other.
I
was stopped by one of them. "Is it true that your brother was
killed?" "No, only wounded; he’ll be home soon,"
I responded, thinking of my second oldest brother recently wounded
in Germany. "She doesn’t know," I heard one of them
whisper. "She thinks you’re talking about the middle
one."
I
took the next flight, two steps at a time, premonition making my
heard thump anxiously. "Please, God," I prayed silently,
"let everything be all right." I knocked on the
stained-glass door of our apartment; my aunt from New Jersey
opened the door. Why was she here? It wasn’t a holiday. A second
look at her swollen eyes heightened my fears: a terror seized me
and I felt rooted to the spot.
Somehow,
I entered and was drawn to the unnatural silence in the living
room. My mother’s closest friend, Mrs. C., stood uncertainly in
the middle of the room, a wadded handkerchief pressed to her nose.
Finally,
my eyes rested on what I knew was my mother, but one I didn’t
recognize as the same vivacious, impeccably groomed, pretty woman
that she was. Collapsed on the overstuffed chair, she was still in
her housedress at twelve noon. Head laid back, hair awry, face
swollen and drained of all color, she lay motionless — dry sobs
coming from somewhere deep within her. My brother John’s photo
lay on her lap, his handsome, young face smiled up at her. On the
table, next to the chair, was a shot glass filled with brandy and
the crumbled telegram.
"What’s
wrong?" a voice not at all like mine whispered. I hoped I was
in the midst of a nightmare, that this wasn’t really happening.
My father gently drew me into the dining room. "John has
died," he said quietly. "No!" I cried. I turned and
flung my arms around him. He smoothed my hair — the braids he
loved. "She’ll be all right," he said, looking at my
mother. "She’ll be all right."
So
that was five months ago and now it was all over. Now, Peter and
James would be coming home like all the other sons and brothers of
our cousins and friends. Things would change for sure. My brothers
would go into the family business; marriages and babies would
brighten our lives. But that was in the future — I didn’t
know, at nine years old, that life could be better or worse than
it is on any one day that we are feeling joy or sorrow.
I
turned away from the window in search of my mother, a newly
acquired, anxious habit.
"Let’s
go to Mrs. C.’s," she said, avoiding my troubled eyes. She
still didn’t look like herself. We walked the short block to the
trolley. It was a sunny day, still warm enough for summer, but
with the crispness of fall in the air. We walked without talking,
aware of the joy around us but not a part of it. Trolleys clanged,
cars honked, total strangers embraced, and the bells continued to
peal. We boarded an open-sided Nostrand Avenue trolley and sat
quietly, looking straight ahead. Other passengers boarded, smiles
on their faces, and looked at us expecting similar reactions.
Seeing my mother’s black, mourning clothes, their gazes slid
uncomfortably away, unwilling to allow their joy to be diminished
by another’s pain.
We
got off the trolley and walked up St. John’s Place. Scents and
aromas floated out store doorways: freshly roasted coffee beans,
Italian spices. We didn’t comment on how good they smelled, as
we usually did. We climbed the steep flight to Mrs. C.’s
apartment. She opened the door — although her son would be
coming home, she felt the pain in her friend’s heart. She opened
wide her arms and welcomed us in.
V-J
Day
By
Tina Chippas
The
church bells toll slowly
A
joyous day, a grey day,
A
day of hope and sorrow.
Dong,
dong
A
life over,
Yet
hardly begun.
A
mother’s soul rent in two.
A
first-born, so young, so pure
Deep
in foreign soil.
Dong,
dong
One
gold star and two of blue.
So
much to give a country
That
counts its dead by
Tens
of thousands.
Dong,
dong
Comforting
arms—
Another
mother’s love
Salves
the wound.
The
pain passes.
A
scar remains.
Though
now silent,
The
bells still peal in the child’s memories.
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I
admit it — I’m a Reality Show Junkie. I am fascinated by the
competition to excel and survive contrived situations, by the
excesses/deficiencies of the real-life cast members and I wonder
why. It’s not as if I’m removed from world affairs — I worry
about the oil spill and the disastrous effects of a company’s
negligence on our environment and wildlife. I’m concerned about
the economic crisis in our country and how our children and
grandchildren, our country, will survive it. I don’t live
vicariously through TV land’s scenes and schemes. I do have
other interesting and worthwhile pursuits in life and I live in a
condominium building! Why then, do some of these
"reality" shows pique my curiosity enough for more than
one minute of viewing?
I
was mulling this over when a memory from the ’70s surfaced —
that of a diminutive, eighty-nine-year-old woman hurrying though
N.Y.C.’s Port Authority Terminal. I thought I saw Edna on the
bus as we plowed our way through traffic into Manhattan but it
wasn’t until I saw her determined progress through the crowded
terminal I was sure it was she.
At
eighty-nine, Edna, a retired lawyer, still didn’t know what
"retired" meant. She advised women’s organizations and
supported their progress toward the proverbial "glass
ceiling." Edna wasn’t a bra-burning feminist. She believed
for women to evolve and compete for good jobs with good pay,
creditable educations were pre-requisites and career plans
essential. Edna was a role model, as well, for those of us who’d
abdicated our careers for motherhood. Widowed in her thirties,
with three small children, Edna returned to college and earned her
law degree from Columbia University. Retiring at sixty-five, she
turned to teaching law and devoting time to women’s shelters
helping victims of domestic abuse plan lives outside their scope
of what they could become instead of what they had become. That
day, she was on her way to the U.N. Building to work for women’s
rights on an international basis. Her humanitarian and selfless
determination to help others help themselves was exemplary.
On
the reality show "Real Housewives of — (city of your
choice)," misnomered "housewives" exemplify
everything Edna was not. They epitomize self-indulgence with
extravagant pursuits extraordinary to our difficult economic times
and engineer problematic situations for which they must apologize
to aggrieved friends and family. Hardly "housewives" as
I knew/know them and certainly not role models for their children
or anyone else’s. Qualities once thought as basic and essential
to our society — honesty, modesty, discretion, loyalty, to name
a few — are ignored. The machinations of their world barely seem
plausible let alone "real" and the dichotomy between
Edna’s goal to make the world a better place and the housewives’
frenetic ambition to buy more, show more is immeasurable.
Fortunately,
there are "real" reality shows. On "Top Chef,"
products requiring skill and labor are judged by experts, and who
can deny the teamwork and love Carlo’s "familia"
shares on "Cake Boss." And don’t I wish I had one iota
of "Project Runway’s" designers’ creativity as they
fashion shapeless material into trendy garments — such talent
and determination to excel.
"It’s
Me or the Dog" — now that’s a show with positive
messages. The spunky Victoria Stillwell tackles unruly canines and
their owners. She teaches understanding, patience, and positive
reinforcement.
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I
was swept away the first time I visited a dog park. Literally—off
my feet, on my back. A new dog park had opened. I thought my
daughter’s deranged Min-Pin, Lukie, nee Lucifer, would love the
freedom of a park. I have a Princess Poodle. You won’t find this
breed listed under A.K.C. Chelsea simply was born into the wrong
species—she was meant to be a Princess Human. This red-haired,
canine noblewoman likes to be bathed, groomed and walked in
landscaped parks. In a flood, it’ll be Lukie, on the roof,
barking for the boat to pick him up while Chelsea gracefully poses
on the sofa, waiting for a rescuer’s knock on the door.
I
knew Chelsea wouldn’t appreciate mingling with the canine
commoners, but I was convinced animated Lukie would. The second we
entered the parking lot, Chelsea looked at me with dismay. Eight
large dogs roamed the enclosure. "You brought me here?"
her eyes reproached me. Lukie’s eyes lit up. "Lemme outta
here!" he panted. "I gotta get out with them big
guys!" (I’ve come to read dog language well.) I could
barely restrain him as he tugged to get past the double gates into
the grassed pen.
I
unleashed him and he tore off, racing toward his new buddies who
outsized and outweighed him five times over. Chelsea looked at the
mob of bulky creatures as they sniffed Lukie and primly sat down
beside me. "Let me know when you want to leave, Lady,"
she muttered under her breath as she examined her buffed nails.
"Not my milieu here." I shrugged. Her choice to mingle
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Lukie |
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Chelsea |
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At
least Lukie was enjoying himself. He was dancing around the big
dogs, Gene Kelly without the umbrella or rain. Teasing them—darting
away and returning to the posse. "C’mon, ya big sissies.
Whatsamatta, can’t run, huh?" His small, muscular body and
stubby tail wriggled in anticipation. I thought I saw the German
Shepherd raise his brows and nod his head at his comrades.
"Voss is das?" he asked. "It’s a Miniature
Pinscher, Otto, you know, like a small Doberman," a yellow
Lab answered deferentially. "Doberman?" Otto scoffed.
"He iss a joke. Ve don’t play mit him. Tell him to go avay."
The Lab turned to Lukie who smiled, white teeth glistening. "NAAA
NAAA, can’t get me," Lukie taunted. "Big sissies
scared?" "Dot’s itt," Otto shook his fur. "Ve
go. Men, follow me!"
Lukie
got a headstart. He circled, serpentined, streaked, zigzagged
across the field leading the furry ribbon of dogs. The pack gained
on him. Realizing his tiny stride was no match for his pursuers,
he looked for help. Grandma! At full tilt, Lukie ran toward and
between my legs. So did Otto. I remember how white and fluffy the
clouds seemed as I lay on my back. Owners came to reclaim their
giants. We had provided them with a great show.
I
limped into my daughter’s house in search of ice for my bruised
body. "Did Mommy’s baby have a good time in the doggy
park?" Daughter cooed to her dog who bore no evidence of his
earlier escapade and seemed eager for his next. "He looks
tired," she reproached me as I tied icepacks to my leg and
arm. "Maybe the dog park was too much for him. He’s such a
timid little guy." Lukie smirked at me. Barely moving his
lips he murmured, "It was a blast, Gram—what are we doin’
tomorrow?"
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Tina
Chippas is a resident of SeaMark Condominiums in North Palm Beach,
FL. She has authored an unpublished novel, Affair in Athens,
that narrates her grandfather’s heroic sheltering of Salonika
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Essays
by
Rebecca
Schlam
Lutto |
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For
Love or Money —
but
Not For Muscles |
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Quiz:
What relationship does the new Health Care Law have to the type of
fellow your daughter, grand daughter or great–grand daughter
might choose to love and/or marry?
The
answer, if you believe in such things, lies in the studies done by
professors, psychologists and social scientists. Their research
shows that women in developed countries with generous government
health care, like Belgium and Sweden, are changing the prehistoric
Paleolithic preference for he-men and now choose to marry the more
gentle and understanding "metro-sexuals."
The
same research shows that women in less-developed nations like
Mexico and Bulgaria still prefer the strength and masculinity that
cave men needed in order to attract cave women.
The
scientists tested young women in thirty countries and asked which
face in photographs they preferred. (Actually, the two photos were
of the same man, but had been changed slightly by computer
software, either to "masculinize" the face, or
"feminize" it.) Presto! The women’s preference for
either kind of man is revealed.
Another
victory for evolutionary psychology – another reason why a girl
in Mombasa may prefer a gold miner and a model in Paris marries a
ballet dancer. They each want the best for their children.
The
women in both camps want healthy children, but the women in the
poor countries know that health care is primitive or non-existent
and pestilence is likely. So they may prefer a hunk, even though
in all groups such bruisers are believed to be less interested in
child-rearing and more likely to be uncooperative, unsympathetic
and more likely to beat them or their children.
The
tests did not include economic questions, but it seems reasonable
to assume income is a factor. As girls in advanced countries are
now likely to have college degrees and high-paying jobs, they no
longer need to marry for money – or for at least a livelihood.
Men
are more likely than women to have lost jobs in the current
recession. That leaves the wife/mother of the family often the
sole breadwinner, and the husband at home caring for the children.
Is
it possible to find a strong, sexy man, a good earner but also
gentle and sympathetic in the same person? The Wall Street Journal
quotes Zsa Zsa Gabor on the subject: "I want a man who’s
kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a
millionaire?"
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Road
Rest Stops — Unneeded or a "Necessary" |
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The
state of Arizona has closed 13 out of 18 of its highway rest stops
to save the $300,000 a year it costs to run each one.
Of
all the cost-cutting and fee-raising steps that Arizona has taken
to close its huge budget gap, this one has raised the most
ferocious hue and cry from the citizenry. My guess is that the
loudest protest of this deprivation of a facility necessary to
everyone — toilets — has come from its many elderly
retiree-citizens.
We
South Florida retirees know all too well that with every passing
year our need for the "necessaries" grow. I notice that
here the homes are more likely to have multiple bathrooms than
elsewhere.
The
problems of scarce facilities in public places is not new,
especially in crowded buildings such as theaters. In New York
City, with its many legitimate theaters, there are controversies
over the fact that men’s and women’s rest rooms are equal in
availability, while women need them more. What with tight
pantyhose and possibly other unmentionables, women can make a
claim for more facilities than men. Various patchwork solutions
are now used, such as unisex rest rooms.
The
closing of rest stops is not the only restriction on motorists and
roads that legislatures have mandated. How about strict
driving-while-impaired (drugs and alcohol) laws, the ban on use by
drivers of cell phones, computers and televisions? How about being
required to wear a seat belt – especially where we live –
Florida?
Most
driving laws have the purpose of saving lives. What does the
rest-stop closings do – require us to wear diapers?
And
if this should come to pass, would the late night comedians have,
in addition to their usual aged Florida driver jokes, additional
fodder, such as this. "Have you been following the story of
this female astro-nut? She drove 900 miles from Houston, Texas, to
Orlando, Fla., to confront the woman who was her romantic rival.
She drove the whole time wearing a diaper so she didn’t have to
make a rest stop. She went to court yesterday and was released in
her own incontinence."
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First
Lady Weighs in on Fat Children |
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After
a year as a mere White House hostess and stay-at-home mom,
Michelle Obama has chosen her field of "celebrity
advocacy."
It
is childhood obesity.
Not
that she is merely a celebrity, such as a show-biz luminary. She
has semi-official clout. When she calls a conference with people
who can help her with her cause, the message is not thrown into
important waste baskets. The invitation, after all, it is not just
to her house, but to the White House – the people’s
house.
Ms.
Obama did not choose an easy or non-controversial cause, such as
Laura Bush’s campaign for literacy (a natural for a former
librarian) or Lady Bird Johnson’s beautification of our
landscape. Alas, opponents are already hollering "nanny
state" and corporations and huge food industry associations
are hiring lobbyists.
Parents
may also be a source of loud resistance. Some have already
complained about notices from school that their children are
overweight. Who likes criticism? Especially not overburdened moms
and dads.
Happily,
the "stamp out child obesity" cause has many supporters
and even a happy fiscal ending, according to a Wall Street Journal
editorial. This rare Journal approval of Michelle Obama’s
program notes that, if successful, this would greatly lower
medical costs in the United States. The editorial notes that
federal spending due to obesity increases our tax burden by 36
percent for Medicare and 47 percent for Medicaid.
Another
mostly non-debatable initiative featured in the First Lady’s
plan is her call for increased physical activity by children. Ms.
Obama cites the health value of walking or biking to and from
school and more playtime and facilities for outside activity both
at home and in schools. She advocates safe walkways and crosswalks
at intersections so that students can use them safely.
Surely
President Obama, tall and lean, sets a good example for his wife’s
goals. When President William Howard Taft was inaugurated in 1909
he was 6 feet tall and weighed more than 300 pounds, the largest
man to ever serve as president. His First Lady, Helen Herron Taft,
did not need to choose a pet project to tout publicly; it was not
the custom then.
So
Michelle Obama starts off with an advantage, a thin spouse. Could
she fight fat as Mrs. Taft? Hardly likely.
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For
the Love of Pasta |
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Dear
reader, do you remember family mealtimes before 1965 when
spaghetti was on the menu?
Those
were the dark days when kids in highchairs tried to eat the
much-loved Italian delicacy but most of it landed on the child,
the chair or the walls.
In
1965 a parent-liberator invented a new toddler-friendly shape of
pasta: Spaghetti Os. Donald Goerke, the inventor of the
doughnut-shaped version intended for children, died recently at
83. He was a retired marketing manager at Franco-American, a
division of the Campbell’s Soup Company.
Goerke’s
mission was to design an incarnation of spaghetti that would
withstand canning and reheating, and that children could eat
without creating a battlefield-like scene in American homes. The
shapes that were rejected included baseballs, cowboys, spacemen
and stars.
Since
1965 Spaghetti Os have become a standard item in American
pantries. More than 150 million cans are sold each year. My guess
is that a few million cans are sold to adults who could never
learn to twist the original limp strands on a fork, as gourmets
do. (Some restaurants give diners who order spaghetti a bib to
wear.)
Now
that Spaghetti Os and their competitors have saved many a kitchen
and dining room, we can go back to thinking of pasta as a food –
equally esteemed by both gourmands and nutritionists.
Just
as cheese is consecrated as "milk’s leap to
immortality," so pasta represents the apotheosis of flour and
water. Gourmets and prize-winning chefs will argue eternally about
which shape goes with which sauce, but both agree on its
adaptability and infinite ability to combine with a thousand other
foods to delight eaters.
There
are enough shapes and sizes of pasta to fill a small dictionary.
Most of the names are in Italian, and describe the shape of the
objects outside the kitchen that they resemble. Some examples are
macaroni (tubes or cylinders), fusilli (swirls), and lasagna
(sheets).
The
names may be Italian, but some form of pasta is served worldwide,
from Brazil to Hong Kong. In Italian, all pasta names are plural,
so let’s get together and tie on our spaghetti bibs. Buon
appetito!
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Class
of 2013 Attire: A Barrel |
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What
will current college freshman (class of 2013) wear? If the
recession and business losses continue, quite possibly a barrel
held up by suspenders.
According
to a recent survey of 297 campuses, this year’s freshmen saw
dollar signs in every facet of college choice, career goals and
life on campus. Concern for the financial side of a college
education was the highest it has been since the Nixon
Administration.
Those
of us who remember the role of higher education in America before
World War II should not be shocked by the survey numbers. In the
1920s college students appeared to be less interested in quantum
physics than in football games that they attended wearing raccoon
coats and packing flat flacons of bootleg liquor and waving
banners touting their college team.
Of
course a few "have-nots" managed to earn a degree
without a raccoon coat or even a decent roof over their heads. The
teenage Ronald Reagan arrived at his college with no money and
presented himself to the school’s president, who was impressed
by the tall, strapping youth. He arranged for Reagan to sleep in a
college out-building and work to pay for his tuition and other
expenses.
My
impression of the 1930s was of the subway commuters in New York
City who were privileged to attend City College or Hunter College
with tuition free. Since I lived in the New Jersey boondocks (as
my New York relatives called the area), those schools were not
available to me.
My
route to college was unlike Ronald Reagan’s. I took the
statewide exam for high school graduates and did well. This gave
me tuition at a state school ($200 for a college year). For room
and board, I lived with a family as a babysitter and dishwasher.
There was also some salary: one dollar a week for a bus pass.
Reagan
and I date from the days of a rough road to college for un-rich
kids. Before the GI Bill, before federal grants and many other
scholarships – and before college loans that are easy to accept
but hell to pay back.
How
about some federal aid for repayment of college loans – similar
to mortgages?
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Politically
Correct White House Dining |
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The
White House state dinner for the Prime Minister of India and his
wife was a first for the Obama presidency.
It
was also remarkable for its size (320 guests), which necessitated
that it be held on the White House lawn in a tent.
The
menu, which encompassed varied religious, ethnic, political,
gastronomic and environmental restrictions and celebrations, can
be studied like an ancient parchment.
First,
the guests of honor are religious vegetarians. So, although the
dinner was meatless, it did include a dish derived from animals:
prawns. Prawns are similar to shrimp; both are shellfish.
The
Hindu religion forbids the eating of animals. Are shellfish not
animals? This religious "definition" reminds me of
definitions of foods in the Jewish religion. The eating of
shellfish is forbidden in strict Judaism, but fish with fins are
permitted.
Another
nod to tradition in Jewish food rules is honey. The land of
"milk and honey" had few available sweeteners in
Biblical times and the science of food chemistry was, of course,
unknown. So, assuming that honey was only "housed" by
the bees who brought it to the hive from their source in blossoms,
the Ancients assumed they were of plant origin.
As
a nod to the current rage for kitchen gardens and local farmers’
markets, there was White House arugula and honey at the state
dinner. The culinary heritage of the hosts was indicated by chick
peas, okra and collard greens.
So,
considering the complexity of selecting the foods, the Obama White
House cannot be criticized for a few minor slips. While the hosts
were concentrating on the religious, bipartisan, diversity and
health restrictions of the menu, they can be forgiven for a
security boo-boo: allowing a couple of party-crashers in.
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Archie
Bunker vs 'Sex and the City' |
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When
I heard that Archie Bunker’s armchair had been given the honor
of placement in the Smithsonian Institution, my eyes were opened
to the importance of popular culture.
Here
was Archie, who worked on a loading platform and personified
American blue-collar workmen in the television sit-com "All
in the Family" raised to historic stature. His chair, which
he wouldn’t let anyone else sit on, became a revered icon,
because that is what it symbolized to him.
However,
appropriate as it was to consecrate Archie’s chair to signify
Archie’s status as king of his castle, choosing Carrie Bradshaw’s
laptop computer for the Smithsonian seems to me less suitable.
The
impression I take away from "Sex and the City" is that
of recreational sex in a glittering city, namely New York City’s
suave reaches of Manhattan where no one needs to look at price
tags or the right side of a menu.
The
Smithsonian curator who selected Carrie’s laptop for the museum
says, "The laptop is an iconic prop symbolizing Carrie as a
chronicler of contemporary society." He justifies Carrie’s
historic role by adding, "She represents the latest stage in
the progression from Lucy Ricardo and Mary Tyler Moore — and
more broadly, the evolution of the role of women in America."
Archie’s
chair, dark and threadbare, seems at home in a museum of history.
It bears the patina of dust and long use, comfortable in the same
repository with the desk on which Thomas Jefferson wrote the
Declaration of Independence and Abraham Lincoln’s top hat.
And
to represent "Sex and the City," I nominate a pair of
Manolo Blahnik shoes.
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Essays
by Stanley Shotz |
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When
the phone rings about 2 A.M. you know it can’t be good news. This
time it was a neighbor of their dad calling from more than 1000
miles away. They never met her but had heard her name being
mentioned many times over the years on the phone. She was frantic!
"You better get down here right away and take care of what is
going on with your father!" That was a shocking wake up edict
in the middle of the night.
Their
father had moved to the sunshine state a few years ago with their
Mom. It was their retirement dream — the golden years of their
lives, to loaf away in the luxury of a beach front condo. It lasted
awhile. The dances, the parties, the cruises and the annual
too-short visits with the children, when they traveled up north. His
wife of 50 years plus passed away after a brief illness and left him
with all the good and bad memories and very few friends and family
to share them with.
But
he was a good sport, and after an extended period of mourning, he
joined with his few friends in the life of the singles. The golf and
card playing; the early-bird dinners; the movies — he joined in
with his few male friends. His apartment was furnished beautifully
and he kept the one guest room all neat, unused and ready for any
guest that might want to visit for a few days or a few weeks. Seldom
did anyone visit however, the telephone seemed to be the best way to
keep in touch.
The
three sisters and their brother arrived the very next day after the
2 A. M. call. The scene was not to be as it was on their last visit.
The place was a mess. Piles of old newspapers, a stack of mail,
unwashed dishes and the odor of a closed-up home was what greeted
them as they opened the door. Pop was sitting in front of the TV and
scarcely realized that his children had come into the room.
It
didn’t take much more for them to realize that their father had
gotten to the point in life where he could not care for himself and
to continue to live alone. As the morning went on, the discussion
was entirely focused on what were they to do with him now.
The
decision was reached. Dad had to be moved somewhere else that would
now become his home. There would be the disposing of the family
keepsakes, the packing of his clothes and selling off the condo and
the contents. But first things first! What shall we do with Dad?
None of the 4 children could accommodate him in their homes. With
everyone working, the grandchildren in school and the thought of Dad
coming back to the cold winters again in the north; they decided
that he needed to be in a nearby facility that was for the elderly
and infirm.
So
there they were, that same day standing in the offices of the nearby
home, with the social worker, listening to the description of what
would be available for their father. Everything seemed to be
spinning at double speed throughout the entire next few days. Who
has the time to dawdle and compare? This was an interruption of
their individual routines and all four wanted to conclude this
unwanted task as quickly as possible and get back to their personal
concerns.
Unknown
to them, however, was the fact that they actually were making the
best, and no doubt, the proper decision for their father. As the
admission clerk described the meals, the recreational offerings and
medical care etc. that would be available, they stood stone faced
and rigid as they thought about what was to be the end of their
precious family circle. It was then that the tears began to flow as,
no doubt, each thought of their relationship with their Dad coming
to such a sudden, and yet necessary, conclusion. After winding up
most of the details of the move over the next few days, the foursome
agreed to pay their Dad a parting visit before heading to the
airport for their evening flight.
As
they entered his room, they saw that the staff had decorated what
they had previously viewed as a barren room. On several walls, they
had placed a couple of the favorite paintings that Dad had done in
the condo art classes.
On
the windows, someone had pasted several of the stained glass birds
and flowers that Dad had been so proud of, which he too had made at
the Condo. On the window ledges were the framed pictures of the
whole family which had been part of his former living room decor. On
the dresser for him to always enjoy, was that last framed family
picture taken on his fiftieth wedding anniversary with Mom and all
the children gathered around them. ... But their father was no where
to be seen.
Lying
on the bed was a colorful folder describing the activities for the
residents for that week. It mentioned that, at this hour, something
was going on in the Social Hall. They took the elevator back to the
lobby floor and went looking for him in the Social Hall. There he
was, sitting with dozens of people, playing Bingo. He agreed to have
lunch with them in the cafeteria, but couldn’t spend too much
time, since he had promised several men to play poker for a few
hours. Then he had to make ready for the Sabbath because they held a
service in the Chapel on the eve of the Sabbath and Dad volunteered
to say some of the blessings and lead in the reciting of the
prayers. It was always the highlight of the week when Dad took us to
Temple and did that when we were kids.
It
was a new life for him! Activities, friends, care and a life with
dignity were to continue be his. The relief that came upon them was
quite visible on their faces as they went to the airport, to head to
different destinations. They pledged to each other that they would
visit Dad often in his new home and to call him frequently. He would
like that.
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Juneteenth
— The Unknown Holiday |
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The
signing of the Emancipation Proclamation on January 1,1863 declared
"slaves within any State, or designated part of a State ...
then in rebellion ... shall be then, thence forward , and forever
free." The States affected were enumerated in the proclamation;
specifically exempted from the Emancipation, were slaves in parts of
the Southern states then held by the Union armies. Previously, about
nine months before, on March 13,1862, Lincoln issued orders which
forbade Union army officers from returning fugitive slaves. Liberty
was thereafter conferred on just over one million blacks. It was
then with the enactment of the 13th Amendment to the Constitution in
1865, that slavery was abolished throughout the nation.
On
June 19,1865, Maj. General Gordon Granger landed at Galveston and
issued a general order declaring the end of slavery in Texas. It had
been nearly 30 months since President Abraham Lincoln issued the
executive order which had provided for all slaves.
"You
see, we’ve been kind of slow down here in Texas", stated one
of the residents who is a 3rd generation descendant of East Texas
slaves. "As Texans, Juneteenth has always had a special meaning
for us," she said. "It’s a pity the day is increasingly
losing its significance and has become an inconsequential day marked
by partying, food and drink." To her husband, a painter, the
success of the Cosby television family represents everything he
would like his family to have one day. That’s my ideal and it’s
also my dream for my piece of the American dream. For me, Juneteenth
is one of those dates in the black experience when I like to take a
hard look at where I used to be as against where I’m now."
The
general feeling of some native Texans is that the significance of
Juneteenth is gradually being lost. It may be happening according to
some, because more non-Texas blacks are moving in and it may be
happening because memories are fading. The celebration goes on
throughout the community as many still celebrate June 19th as a
wonderful day in the history of black Texans. One student, studying
at Richland College said, "When I first heard of Juneteenth, I
wondered what it was all about, but after talking with my friends at
school and hearing what my parent had to say, the day now has
definite meaning to me."
In
some areas of the nation, Dallas and Denver as examples, the
celebration has become marred with violence and confrontation with
police. The observance first began in black communities of the
South, and blacks carried the tradition with them when they moved
north and west. The five day festival often ends with a
gospel-singing festival and church services. During the five days -
food booths, along with official activities and a "country
fair" atmosphere, sets the mood of the holiday.
The
"Unknown Holiday" continues each year as a segment of
America acknowledges each June, of the announcement of their
freedom. To the Texas blacks, it is the greatest of their holidays
and is far more relevant to them than any of the past developments
in Selma, Birmingham or the marches in Washington D.C. The news
services across the South recite the stories of individual families
and their history of financial and educational progress since those
days of the Emancipation.
Stanley
Shotz, is an accredited Journalist and resides in Cypress Lakes,
West Palm Beach Fla. His articles frequently appear in
the Condo News.
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"Mom!
it’s the Eggman at the door!" That statement was heard every
Thursday afternoon in our home. It was the weekly scheduled visit by
the man who brought to our door, fresh eggs, butter, chickens and
other products from a Jersey farm. This I recall, was the way many
families purchased fresh foods from either a friend or relative who
was in
business as the sole operator of a Butter and Egg route.
Our
Uncle Sam, owned an old Chevy car. He had converted the opening in
the back instead of the rumble seat into a small cargo trunk affair.
Each Thursday he made his way from North Philly area to a Vineland,
New Jersey town and loaded his car with farm products that he bought
at less than retail prices.
He
then returned to the city and went on his route of people that
expected him each week. Our order was usually for a dozen eggs, a
fresh killed chicken and a half pound of sweet butter. Sometimes my
mother added to the order more eggs if a holiday was approaching.
Uncle Sam was the news carrying gossiper of the family as he sat and
drank his coffee and told us what was going on with the rest of the
clan. When it was time to pay him for the goods, he pulled from his
pocket a roll of paper money secured by a rubber band. It appeared
to me, that there must have been zillion dollars in his hand earned
from his prosperous business. Of course there were weeks that he
gave us his wares but left with Mom’s promise to pay him, the next
time.
It
was through our Eggman that we heard of who was having a baby, who
was sick, out of work and who had found a job. These were the
depression years and few of the family had a telephone. This was our
weekly update on what was the latest news within our family. In
later years I learned that most families had a family member or
friend that was their Eggman.
When
we had family gatherings, a wedding or party of any kind there was
always the outstanding, prosperous and probably the only car owner
that was the Eggman of the crowd. He was the one that was at ease
with everyone and smoked the big cigar and he tipped all the people
that served him. The men gathered around him and heard of his great
exploits and business smarts. He was in every ones opinion the most
successful of the family and surely the only one with steady income.
As youngsters, he represented to us, in depression days, a business
leader of our community.
Since
this personal farm service has disappeared from our routine in favor
of the big community super markets we are left with the memories of
those pioneers of self employment opportunities. The tittle of
"Big Butter and Eggman" is often heard around the condo
pools. This is a title that is whispered among the listeners of the
"big shot" who considers himself to be the leading person
of the group presently gathered. You know the type, he has bought
it, owned it, seen it, been there and has it. We have
to take his word for it! After all, he regards himself as today’s
- Big Butter and Eggman.
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Those
Good Ole Days |
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Yes
indeed! I was one of the sharpest kids on the block. Why you just
couldn’t "hangout" with the gang unless you had wheels.
Now you already have the impressions that we all owned a
"hot-rod" or "hard-top" or even better, a
convertible. Hey No ! That isn’t what we called wheels!
I
am going to describe to you my generation’s means of moving around
the neighborhood.
We
had to have a "Skatemobile," and for your enlightenment
this is how you put together a 1932 model of that now defunct
vehicle which has gone the way of the Hupmobile and the Henry J and
then too, the powerhouse Hudson.
The
most important part to obtain was one real ball bearing Chicago
brand roller skate, no substitutions and no off-brands would be
acceptable by the crowd. With your skate key you could separate the
front wheels from the back part and have two sections. You then
looked down in the cellar of your house and you could usually locate
a piece off the back fence that was supposed to end up as kindling
in the furnace on a cold morning. This three inch wide board had to
be about three feet long and about one inch thick.
This
would become the chassis of your vehicle and on each end you
securely nailed a section of that roller skate I mentioned. For all
appearances, today this would have been called a
"skateboard", but it was much longer and still had some
details to be added. On the end you wanted to designate for the
"front end", you had to nail a wooden box , the kind your
grocery had left over from a shipment of apples. The real neat and
sharp guys, ( I was one of them) used a discarded orange crate. This
provided a ready made shelf when it was attached in a vertical
position. Wow! When those guys went to the store to get the
newspaper or a 10-cent loaf of bread, they were able to put it on
the shelf instead of holding it in their hand. This left one hand
for holding onto the box and the other was free for waving at the
guys.
You
could put one foot on the board and by holding onto the box and then
pushing with the other foot, get down to the corner in half the time
it would take to walk. After getting up some speed you could place
the pushing leg on the board, too. Just the same way kids on the
skateboards do it now, you were a real classy mover.
It
got so, at times, you couldn’t find a place to park your
Skatemobile in front of the candy store (later called cigar stores)
and it was especially rough after school hours and on Saturdays
after the movies let out.
Some
of the guys were allowed out after dark, maybe their parents didn’t
nag them to stay in and do their homework. You could spot their
Skatemobiles real easy; they had taken a tin can from a trash
barrel; and it was nailed onto its side on top of the apple or
orange crate. Inside the can was a candle and when they lit it after
dark, it illuminated the street so that they could see where they
were going (it really didn’t light up anything). However, it
showed us who the kids were that were allowed to use matches. I was
not able to install that "option ", since I was not
allowed to light matches or mess with fires. I used to be able to,
but that was before I set our house on South 3rd Street on fire back
in 1928 while hunting around our dark basement for some toys -- with
a lit candle.
I
have real wheels now, well, in fact, everyone on this block has one
or even two of them. The styles have changed, but you still can’t
seem to find a place to park it anyplace when the movies let out on
Saturdays.
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Two
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Asking
around these days, of men that are now senior citizens, of the
source of their income during the depression days becomes a sad
recollection for most. Allowances were just a few nickels a week and
were supposed to be enough for lunch in the school cafeteria.
Some
describe their earning a few coins by running errands for neighbors
and of course some delivered newspapers and cut lawns and in winter
shoveled sidewalks. A few had the opportunity of working in their
Dad’s store or shop. I too needed to fund my own expenses and I
became a businessman at the age of thirteen. Mom, my older brother
and I lived during that time in an apartment, a scant two blocks
from one of the subway stations in our city.
Late
every afternoon, hundreds of workers from center city came rushing
through the turnstiles when they exited the subway at that subway
station. To me it was an opportunity to sell something to the
throngs as they rushed home from a long day at work.
I
went to a wholesale candy store a few blocks away and purchased a
large box containing one hundred and twenty small Hershey bars. The
box cost me 30 cents and I figured I could sell them at 2 for a
penny.
I
stood at the turnstile each afternoon from 4 to 6pm since my school
let out at 3:30 pm. Soon I began to hop on the subway cars and I
rode for several stops. Roaming though each car selling the
passengers a welcome treat and then I returned to my local station.
Having
made friends with the lady cashiers at that station enabled me to
have free rides on the trains every day. In fact, they even had me
come by their homes on weekends for lunch.
This
went on for about two years and we then moved away from the subway
station and that lucrative business opportunity.
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As
we stand at the threshold of a new year, the will of people and
nations for peace and freedom seems to have no limits.
And
as the year 2009 passed, it brought us a world whose face, and whose
governments and whose politics were changing; but as they did, we
witnessed the possibility of confrontation and the realization that
mistrust and aggression are still with us. This realization hit
hard, as once again in our lifetime American men and women are being
pressed into service for the cause of justice.
Our
prayers are with them at this time. The never ending strife in the
Middle East, our war with Iraq and the election of the first
Afro-American in the history of the United States of America will
find their place in our memories of the year 2009.
With
only a short period into the 21st century, it is remarkable to think
of how timeless and unchanging humanity’s most cherished ideas
have been. The desire for peace, kindness and freedom bind us
together with people everywhere for we share the same concern for
our time and the same visions of a future with nations across the
world as we look for a life without strife.
So,
as we go into this new year 2010 and this new season, let us
celebrate the spirit of peace and take solace in the fact that we
are joined by so many around the world. If we as nations, and
people, each make peace within our hearts, peace and understanding
on earth may be at hand. |
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The
Holy Donut
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Stanley Shotz |
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How
did depression kids manage to get along during those "good
old days?" Few are around today to tell of some of their
experiences of 75 years ago. They were the years from about 1930
and into 1940 that brought changes into almost every home in our
town. For most people, there was the need to move into different
homes and acquire different life-styles from what we had become
accustomed to as youngsters. I, for one, moved with my mother and
older brother to a small apartment from a 3 bedroom house. My
little sister moved in with our grandmother a few blocks away.
During
the afternoon, I delivered a paper route six days a week. The
evenings were taken up with homework, and it was Friday nights and
Saturdays that gave me the freedom to hang out with the guys.
Our
"hangout headquarters" was in front of the corner candy
store just next door from our place. If you were lucky, you could
earn a few nickels by going to someone’s home nearby when they
were called to answer a call on the public phone in the store.
They had to give you a tip or they wouldn’t be called in the
future if they were stingy and left you empty handed. It could
rain, sleet and snow, but we were there to make small talk and
resolve all the problems facing the world. The owner of the store
was always hoping that we would come in and spend a few cents. For
that reason, we were seldom chased away, and then too, the person
called to the phone might buy some small item while in the store,
to show their appreciation for getting called.
Saturday
night was something special for us poor kids on the corner, for we
would be huddled in the cold weather, stomping our feet, but too
lonely to just go home. This was before the days of TV. At the
next corner was a missionary store. It was just a regular 2 story
house with store front windows that were covered with curtains.
The family lived in the back of the house and on the second floor.
The first floor area had rows of wooden folding chairs arranged
with a center aisle.
As
I recall, there was seating for about 30 people. At the furthest
end of the store was an elevated platform and rostrum. In the rear
of the place was a kitchen with stove and sink. Hanging on the
wall behind the platform was a wooden cross and a large picture of
Jesus.
About
8 PM on Saturday night, some of the poor in the neighborhood
drifted in along with the bunch of fellows that I was hanging out
with on the next corner. We all sat and got warm during the one
hour sermon. It was a relief to get into a place that was heated
and provided a bathroom and refreshments. Finally, prayer and
eventually the singing portion for the service ended. On a table
at the side of the podium was a large table and on it a plate with
donuts piled on it. All through the service I stared at the donuts
for they represented the only delicacy that I would have all week.
The smell of hot coffee began to permeate the room and we became
restless as the hour seemed to drag on and on.
Finally,
the preacher’s wife would enter the room carrying a large pot of
hot coffee. It seemed like forever that we finally came to the
closing prayer. The minister talked on and on, while we sat and
stared at the donuts on the table. We finally were able to rush to
the table in the room and we all reached out to grab the day-old
donuts that was the reward for our listening to the Gospel. The
minister each week was able to get those stale donuts from the
local bakery at little or no cost. The fact that they were a
little harder than fresh and all the same type did not lessen
their appeal to us kids and adults alike.
The
coffee was strong, no milk and no sugar was served, but that donut
was a gift from heaven for those of us that had the patience to
wait. It made no difference to many of us who were of different
religions. The donut and warmth of the room were ample
compensation for the hour of listening. I returned week after
week, for the donut.
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